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Cyrano's Ten
Principles
Four:
When The Student Is Ready, The Master
Appears!
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There must be hundreds of books that deal with this
subject. This particular bit of wisdom is often attributed to an old, wise
Bhuddist saying. The philosophy is pretty fundamental. Even the basics of
military training are to tear down the student and wash his emotions until he
is no longer resistant to any input. Personal training in many fields of
endeavor often start with, "Forget everything you think you know." The premise
is that anything already existent in your mind will hinder the molding process
and keep the conversion from being pure, thus tainting the final product. There
are sayings, proverbs, and Bible verses that address the issue of "casting
pearls before swine." The idea is, if the person you are talking to is not in a
mood or state of mind/consciousness to listen, then why would you expect him
to? Also, why tell someone about a perfectly good clue in life if they are not
capable of comprehending the value of this discovery and are simply going to
waste the knowledge? It goes in one ear and out the other. The words of wisdom
fall upon deaf ears. So the wisdom of these proverbs and verse suggest that you
save your breath. For what? For the person who is in the right frame of mind
and heart to learn. Then you stand a chance of communicating to someone with
effectiveness, and a relationship has a chance to exist.
Now lets refine
this a bit more. The student statement and the pearls statement are not exactly
the same. "Casting pearls before swine," is suggestive that you have words of
wisdom that should be listened to. The statement concerns the nature of a
student in the sense that a teacher would not bother trying to share knowledge
to one who is not open to discovery. It implies that an individual must be
open, and ready to receive the gift of knowledge and understanding. And if
someone is, miraculously the knowledge and understanding which are dispensed
will be acknowledged, comprehended, and hopefully integrated into a revised way
of thinking, which then in turn allows for one to act differently than one
would have acted without the knowledge.
It is not usually the case that
people do not hear you at all when you talk. However it is common that they
will hear only what they want to, perhaps a bit less than YOU want them to. The
syndrome is that people will probably adhere conceptually to that which
enforces their beliefs, and tend to react negatively to, and possibly reject or
filter out anything that does not. But whatever the absorption ratio, it is
necessary to understand that we are processing information all the time that
will either reinforce, conflict with, or modify our thinking. It's much like
the conditions of an old computer. No matter how hard we try, the mind, our
mental computer, still only works as fast as our processor is capable. It only
records only as well as our operating system can handle. And it recalls with
some limitations in integrity. Unlike an actual computer that searches through
data with more efficiency than a person's brain, we can only work with the
"random access memory" that we have at the time, and we plague ourselves with
viruses that hinder our processing ability and clutter the working order of our
mental operating systems. Then sometimes, we overload, and possibly even crash.
Maybe the whole computer simply locks up! The viruses that cause some of our
mental computer malfunctions are often imagined. Now that is something
different from a computer, since it is not something that was acquired over a
random network. However, someone or something connected with us at some point
and implanted that virus, and it is just as real as if we were exposed to
another infected person who kissed us with a cold. CONTACT! ...and the problem
is off and running.
So what do we do? First of all, back to Principle
#2, we try to have reasonable expectations. Lets assume that our memory
will not be perfect, and we will need to update our databases on occasion.
Also, we should exercise a concerted effort to review what we know. Secondly,
we should add to our incoming knowledge the factor of Principle #3, that
everything changes. Keeping this in mind, understand that things that seem like
fact may very well be relative to a certain person or persons, or type of
person, or guys as opposed to gals, or even a specific time period. Since
everything changes, we must acquire new knowledge using it as tools for our
processing, as opposed to planting it as new signposts pointing the direction
to destinations that may not be valid in a matter of time.
My laptop
computer is more reliable in keeping track of things than my own memory. If I
listen to my laptop, it will tell me when to get up, take a shower, go to my
next meeting, get my hair cut, and plan my days, weeks, and complete schedule.
However there is one thing - you have to tell it to tell YOU to do so. No
matter what, the choice is ours to enter the time for the alarm, date of an
appointment, and most of all, we must actually respond. We must take action,
because even if the computer says "YOU TOLD ME TO TELL YOU TO DO THIS NOW!",
you still must be a participant and subject yourself to the process. You have
to be ready to do what you have to do.
So learning new things falls into
the categoric process of acquiring new information, upgrading your computer,
and adding to the data in your database which helps you make all your
decisions. Most importantly, you must be receptive to this new information,
otherwise it never gets input properly into your computer, it gets tainted by
the latest virus, your files become corrupted and your data processing and
perhaps even the programs themselves, malfunction... and the new, potentially
helpful information has fallen on deaf ears.
The solution? The student
must be ready. What, you're not a student? You think you ARE the Master? Then
you don't need this speech, and you are wasting your time. Also, your ego is
bigger than real life. For those of you who do not realize that as humans we
are fallable, imperfect, and in need of improvement, just go send the love
letter that you write yourself, and quit messing around here. You will write a
better letter than this site could provide, and women beyond your wildest
dreams will flock to your side! ...Maybe. But the point is, you don't need me
or this site, and I ask that you leave. The ones who will benefit from the
information in this site are the ones who know that there is always room for
improvement, and are interested in learning how new information may apply to
them. In this way, a student reading these words will take away from the
experience that which improves his or her understanding. The benefits will
include the development of better ways to appreciate love, and better ways to
express it.
The actual philosophy regarding student and master would
suggest that we are all students. There is always something to learn. There is
also the belief that we are all teachers, too. Through our actions others learn
from us. From our words, we pass on ideas. When listening to those around us,
the ones we respect we might treat as masters. The ones we do not respect, we
certainly would not grant that title. However, we are probably more inclined to
disbelieve anything that person says. In this way, even the person we cannot
agree with can teach us something. If we are students, it does not take someone
with a degree higher than ours to teach us. It doesn't even take someone with
whom we agree! We must listen to all, and inside ourselves something will take
shape. Hopefully, with an abundance of good lessons, we will learn to love
better. We will learn to do everything better, a little at a time.
This
brings us back to the objective of these principles - how to build a better,
more loving relationship.
If we consider ourselves students of love, we
will discover that it is all around us. Examples of good love surround us -
fathers and mothers with their children, happily married husbands and wives,
girlfriends and boyfriends... even just good friends. Granted, not all
examaples of love can be classified as good. But we, the players, must
determine the good from the bad, the positive from the negative, the useful
from the worthless. Part of being a student is to glean the value from the
lesson. We must reduce the data down to its basic components. From this process
we may find the building blocks for future understanding and better
loving.
You must notice one thing: being a student doesn't imply that
the learning will make us better recipients and senders of love. However, it
probably will! Learning to treat others with love will make us more
appreciative of that giving. There are few things like being the recipient of
great love. But giving great love, believe it or not, could possibly be better!
How? I really am not sure. But I do know that what I do for the ones I love
feels awesome! When giving to friends, family, or anyone, seeing them benefit
and recognizing the gift of my own efforts is a truly wonderful thing.
One last thing: Who is the "Master?" Once we have set our minds and
hearts in the right place to be receptive to truth, common sense, and loving
attitude, who is it that comes along to be our instructor of the higher order?
It could be anyone. However, it could be "no one!" That is, no one other than
yourself. There are enlightened individuals who will sense the truth of life in
a grain of sand. There are others who will read complete text books on
psychology, and still not realize that there are truths to be gleaned from the
words that they missed altogether, even though they read them as thoroughly as
they could. The fundamental concept of the statement, "When the student is
ready, the Master appears," is that awareness brings enlightenment. And if this
is true, that grain of sand just might start speaking to you. But even if it
doesn't, many simple truths of life will be available to you without having to
contemplate sand. Family, friends, work associates, acquaintances, even perfect
strangers could for some time period in your life be the Master. You just have
to be ready to learn. And as I said, there is no reason that, when
enlightenment occurs, it cannot happen when you are by yourself, alone with
your thoughts and your expanded awareness, teaching yourself a higher
truth.
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| Principle # 5 - Being Mr. Right |
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